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The Stages of Recovery from Harm

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Forgiveness Sidney and Suzanne Simon, in their book, Forgiveness, identify several stages in the process of recovery from abuse. Recovering from hurt is a challenging but potentially rewarding life task. Recovery involves – 1.) recognizing that the harm has occurred. We may cling to our old “family secrets,” or we …

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Defining Characteristics of Addictive Behaviors

This entry is part 2 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

This entry is part 2 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior The addictive quest for pleasure has some defining characteristics. Many addictions aim to increase arousal. This is the all-powerful feeling that might come from cocaine, amphetamines, the first few drinks of alcohol, shoplifting, sexual acting out or gambling. This omnipotent feeling, however, is eventually undermined when the …

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Pleasure and Addictive Behaviors

This entry is part 1 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

This entry is part 1 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior “To thine own self be true.” – William Shakespeare We are all pleasure seekers. There are pleasure centers located within the human brain, which, when activated, are associated with feelings of euphoria. This is part of the daily cycle we all experience. During the day we go …

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A Forgiveness “To Do” List

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Forgiveness ____Understand fully that forgiveness does not mean that it is all right for the aggressive behavior to ever be repeated. Forgiveness is meant for past behavior that was unacceptable. ____Give up the unrealistic hope that the perpetrator will apologize, answer your questions or be able to explain why he …

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What is Forgiveness?

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Forgiveness Forgiveness is not a way of forgetting the past. Indeed, if you have been harmed, you should not forget it. You can learn from the past about how to avoid being harmed in the future. Nor is forgiveness a way of exonerating the perpetrator. Recognize that the harm did …

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Choosing to Forgive

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Forgiveness Forgiving the one who caused you harm may seem like the last thing you would want to do. After all, by not forgiving, you can hold onto the belief that you have some power over the perpetrator and that you can therefore prevent the harm from ever happening to …

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The Ways We Are Hurt

This entry is part 2 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 2 of 6 in the series Forgiveness There are many ways of being hurt. Some are minor and some are more severe. In some cases we are the unwitting victim of those who hurt us. At other times we collude in allowing ourselves to suffer by building expectations that make us vulnerable or placing our trust …

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Relationship and Forgiveness

This entry is part 1 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

This entry is part 1 of 6 in the series Forgiveness “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi   All of us have been hurt, in one way or another, by someone else. While it is easy to forgive a friend for the slight distress one feels over a phone call that …

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Discovering the Sources of Conflict in Your Relationship

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Understanding Relationship Conflicts

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Understanding Relationship Conflicts Assessing Your Relationship Understanding the sources of conflict in your relationship is one step towards resolving the differences between you. When we can get the problems out in the open and talk about them objectively, we can often find the solutions. Use the list below as a …

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It Takes Two – An Example of Projections

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Understanding Relationship Conflicts

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Understanding Relationship Conflicts The process of projection in a relationship is not always one-sided. Things can get complicated when both partners are mutually engaged in this process, which is a common occurrence. It becomes difficult for the partners to see where the problem lies. Take a look at the following …

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