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Tantrums, Meltdowns, & Aggression

Is your toddler throwing tantrum in the middle of a store? Does your preschooler refuse to get dressed? Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives challenging? No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots! When you understand how your child brain is wired and how it matures you will be able to handle the meltdowns and aggravation more skillfully. …

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Dealing Assertively with Insults

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Assertive Communication

How to Deal Assertively with Insults All of us have had the experience of being insulted, and it is most uncomfortable. An insult can easily mess up your day, if not your week. Insulting another person is a form of aggression (unless, of course, it can clearly be defined as banter between trusted friends). When you are insulted, you may …

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Assertiveness Tips

This entry is part 4 of 5 in the series Assertive Communication

Some Everyday Assertiveness Tips Recognize that people are responsible for their own behavior. It is not helpful to blame other people when they choose not to do things that you need or want. You can assertively tell another person what you feel about a situation, but then it is the other person’s choice to go along with what you want …

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Communication Skills & Assertiveness

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Assertive Communication

Learning to be more assertive involves examining several dimensions of your life : Self-Esteem: How you define yourself, positively or negatively, depends on the messages you’ve heard from others throughout your life. We internalize the things we’ve heard about ourselves from other people, and this becomes the basis of our self-esteem, which can be either mostly positive or mostly negative. …

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Assertiveness

This entry is part 2 of 5 in the series Assertive Communication

We see instances of nonassertive behavior around us everyday. Most people who lack an assertive style are simply those who want to keep the peace. For the most part, they want goodness and cooperation between people. However, they often pay a high price for this in terms of functioning effectively in the world. There are negative consequences associated with the …

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Assertive Communication

This entry is part 1 of 5 in the series Assertive Communication

Have you ever heard yourself say, “I’m a nice person. I’m a polite person. I’d never intentionally do anything to hurt anybody. So why don’t other people give me the respect I deserve?” The problem could well be due to difficulty with assertion. Maybe you aren’t showing your nice, polite, and respectful qualities to other people. Unless they can see …

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Controlling Your Anger

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Anger

Controlling the Escalation of Anger When anger goes out of control the consequences can be devastating and irreparable. When people have a destructive angry episode, there is a series of steps involved in the escalation of the interaction. We should aim to stop the escalation before it spirals completely out of control. We can learn to break into this chain …

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Exploring Anger

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Anger

An Exercise for Exploring Anger Do this exercise once a day for a month or so. It only takes a few minutes. This exercise encourages you to explore your anger so that you can take a more contained approach toward it. Find a quiet time and place with no distractions (turn off the TV and background music). Close your eyes …

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Positive Approach Toward Anger

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Anger

Some Suggestions for Taking a Positive Approach Toward Anger – The most important thing one can do to manage anger is to get to know this emotion, and to know it well. Ask yourself the following questions. What triggers my anger? Are there any themes in these triggers (for example, feeling condemned, feeling controlled by others, feeling rejected)? What happens …

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Directing Anger Inward

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Anger

Many people have been made to feel ashamed for having anger. If our self-esteem has been damaged, we are ripe candidates for blaming ourselves when we are angry. Women may be particularly susceptible because of cultural expectations to be nice. We may learn to direct our anger inward, toward ourselves, rather than attributing it to a perceived threat in the …

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