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Phases of the Negative Cascade – Contempt

This entry is part 5 of 9 in the series Staying Together - How to Build a healthy Relationship

If the criticisms within a relationship are not addressed, the interaction between the two partners may lead to contempt. This stage of the negative cascade is seen when there is an attempt to insult your partner, as in, “You’re just a pig around the house and I don’t know how I could ever have loved you.” Contemptuous remarks go right …

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Phases of the Negative Cascade – Criticism

This entry is part 4 of 9 in the series Staying Together - How to Build a healthy Relationship

Criticism involves attacking your partner’s personality or character, not just his or her behavior. There is usually an element of blame in the attack. Criticizing your partner leads to defensiveness and may encourage your partner to withdraw from you – after all, if your partner feels blamed because of a personality flaw, it would be difficult thing to repair. A …

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Negative Relationship Behaviors – The Negative Cascade

This entry is part 3 of 9 in the series Staying Together - How to Build a healthy Relationship

A relationship in trouble is one that falls into a negative cascade. One negative reaction leads to the next until there is a seemingly insurmountable wall between the two partners. Relationships that enter this destructive phase need attention and can benefit from the trustworthy, confidential intervention of a professional therapist. Sometimes the two partners fail to notice when they have …

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Positive Interactions in Relationships

This entry is part 2 of 9 in the series Staying Together - How to Build a healthy Relationship

What are positive interactions? They are found in – Showing interest in what your partner is saying, – Expressing affection to your partner both verbally (“I love you”) and nonverbally (holding hands, doing kind little things), – Showing you care – perhaps by making a phone call during the day or bringing home flowers, – Showing appreciation by remembering the …

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Staying Together – Commitment & Relationships

This entry is part 1 of 9 in the series Staying Together - How to Build a healthy Relationship

When we make a commitment to our partner, our usual expectation is that our relationship will last for life and that our love will see us through the inevitable hard times. Yet, when reality sinks in, we have to acknowledge that while love is one of the components of a relationship’s longevity, it really takes more to make it through …

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Social Anxiety & Developing your Conversational Skills

This entry is part 6 of 6 in the series Overcoming Social Anxiety

Anyone can master the art of having good conversations with others. Those who are shy or socially anxious may see this as an unattainable goal, but with enough practice, and using the right techniques, it can enhance the quality of social life. The first skill to acquire is making eye contact. Shy people may avoid eye contact at all costs, …

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Change your Anxious Behaviors

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Overcoming Social Anxiety

The single most important strategy for overcoming social anxiety is to face your fear. Get back on the horse again. Take the car out for a drive once more. Go swimming again. Get back on an airplane. Give another speech before an audience. Go to another dinner party. Ask somebody else to go out on a date. Managing your physical …

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Changing the Thoughts Which Accompany Anxiety

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Overcoming Social Anxiety

Those who suffer from social anxiety engage in excessive self-focus. Their thoughts focus internally on themselves rather than on the external world around them – and this only serves to increase anxiety levels. Furthermore, excessive focus on the internal symptoms means that one loses important information about what is going on externally, and it may give others the impression that …

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Defeating Social Anxiety

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Overcoming Social Anxiety

 There are three stages that people experience in overcoming problems with social anxiety : Identify the patterns of anxiety Change the thinking that accompanies anxiety-provoking situations Change the anxious behavior Identifying the Patterns of Anxiety People often see the distressful symptoms of social anxiety as their enemy, so they try to avoid thinking about it. In order to overcome social …

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Do You Suffer from Social Anxiety?

This entry is part 2 of 6 in the series Overcoming Social Anxiety

Who are the people most likely to suffer from social anxiety? Parents recognize that some children are easily frightened from birth on and cry a great deal, while others seem more resilient by temperament (they seldom cry, hardly ever get upset, and are less easily frightened). Some children love to explore the world around them. Others are cautious and don’t …

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