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Coping With Life’s Disruptions

This entry is part 2 of 4 in the series The Resilient Personality

We all have the capacity to reorganize our lives after a disruption and to achieve new levels of order and meaningfulness if we know how to activate our resilience. In fact, in order to mature through the process of meaningful change and reintegration, we may need to experience life disruptions. In other words, life disruptions are not necessarily a bad …

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Divorce is not Inevitable

Shielding your relationship from Divorce The break of a relationship is a painful experience. No one starts a marriage expecting to divorce. Yet a significant percentage of marriages eventually do end in a divorce. So what does it take to insulate your relationship from the series of choices that bring the relationship to an end? Professionals agree that valuing, prioritizing …

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The Resilient Personality – Bouncing Back from Hardship

This entry is part 1 of 4 in the series The Resilient Personality

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson All of us experience major disruptions at certain points in our lives. In fact, this is an expected and predictable hallmark of the human condition. For some, these hard times come frequently – the impact of the trauma is …

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Additions and Working Through Life’s Challenges

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

We all face problems, stressors and anxieties in our everyday lives. This is a fundamental part of the human condition, and there is no escaping this basic truth. Indeed, challenges help us to grow. The normal process is to perceive a problem and then bring our emotional and thinking abilities into play in order to solve the problem. We can …

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Recovering from Addiction

This entry is part 4 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

“Not I, nor anyone else, can travel that road for you. You must travel it yourself.” – Walt Whitman Coming to terms with addiction may be the most important journey of a person’s life. Because the addict’s primary relationship is with the addictive substance and everything else is secondary, only used to pursue the addictive high, the addict’s safety, security …

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Components of Addictive Behaviors

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

Addictive behavior usually contains the following components: Acting Out Behavior: Addicts create a mood through a change in their behavior that sets the stage to go into the addictive high. Thus, sex addicts will purchase pornographic material. Drug addicts will make the call to the drug dealer. These “acting out” behaviors are a preliminary part of the addictive process and …

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Pleasure and Addictive Behaviors

This entry is part 1 of 5 in the series Understanding Addictive Behavior

“To thine own self be true.” – William Shakespeare We are all pleasure seekers. There are pleasure centers located within the human brain, which, when activated, are associated with feelings of euphoria. This is part of the daily cycle we all experience. During the day we go through naturally occurring periods when we feel comfortable, secure, happy, and fulfilled – …

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A Forgiveness “To Do” List

This entry is part 5 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

____Understand fully that forgiveness does not mean that it is all right for the aggressive behavior to ever be repeated. Forgiveness is meant for past behavior that was unacceptable. ____Give up the unrealistic hope that the perpetrator will apologize, answer your questions or be able to explain why he or she hurt you. Even if apologies or answers were forthcoming, …

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What is Forgiveness?

This entry is part 4 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not a way of forgetting the past. Indeed, if you have been harmed, you should not forget it. You can learn from the past about how to avoid being harmed in the future. Nor is forgiveness a way of exonerating the perpetrator. Recognize that the harm did happen, that the other person is responsible for this and must …

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Choosing to Forgive

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Forgiveness

Forgiving the one who caused you harm may seem like the last thing you would want to do. After all, by not forgiving, you can hold onto the belief that you have some power over the perpetrator and that you can therefore prevent the harm from ever happening to you again. Or you may be so invested in playing the …

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