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Directing Anger Inward

This entry is part 3 of 6 in the series Anger

feeling blue, feeling downMany people have been made to feel ashamed for having anger. If our self-esteem has been damaged, we are ripe candidates for blaming ourselves when we are angry. Women may be particularly susceptible because of cultural expectations to be nice. We may learn to direct our anger inward, toward ourselves, rather than attributing it to a perceived threat in the external world. We may berate ourselves and engage in self-destructive behavior as a consequence.

Anger directed toward ourselves can manifest itself in :

– Physically harming ourselves
– Blaming ourselves for problems, even when we are not really the cause of the problem
– Refusing to feel any emotions, numbing out
– Running away from problems and never addressing them
– Abusing drugs, alcohol, food or participating in other forms of addiction
– Engaging in dangerous behavior, such as reckless driving or thrill-seeking behavior
– Feeling uncomfortable in spending time alone
– Never letting go of anger and allowing it to store up

Dr. Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT
www.sandiegofamilytherapy.net

San Diego Couples and Family Therapy serves the surrounding areas of Sorrento Valley Road as La Jolla, UTC San Diego, Del Mar, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Bernardo, Rancho Penasquitos, Poway, University City and Escondido.

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Dr. Baya MebarekDr. Baya Mebarek is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. She specializes in couple therapy, pre-marital therapy, and in the treatment of children, adolescents, adults, couples and families dealing with depression.View all posts by Dr. Baya Mebarek →

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