Life can be challenging at times. Perhaps you have experienced adverse circumstances that have had a profound negative affect on you and the way you relate to others. Maybe you are clinging to a relationship that hurt because you’re terrified to be alone. Or, you might avoid conflicts no matter the cost. You may even wonder if you’ll ever be happy in your relationships.

There are legitimate reasons for why you feel the way that you do. And, even though you may be in a repetitive negative cycle, there is hope for your future. You don’t have to continue to endure, settle for less or give up. Do not allow your past, your failures, your fears and your doubts to determine your future. Although it may take some time, you can develop the strength, perseverance and skills to build a wonderful future. The future has not yet happened; you have the power to make the future different than your past.

Consider individual counseling. With the support and/or direction of a safe and nurturing qualified professional you can begin to make changes, take chances and develop relationships differently than you have in the past. You may be able to accomplish things you’ve never thought you could do before. You will learn to be your best self. You may well realize just how resourceful and strong you are. Your life is waiting on you to have the courage to try something different!

Making the decision to enter into therapy may be a first step towards living your life more purposefully, passionately and confidently.

Dr. Baya Mebarek, a San Diego therapist helping with relationships skills building, development of self-esteem, recovery from trauma, overcoming depression, and soothing techniques to manage stress/anxiety.