Strengthening Family Commitment and Appreciation

Commitment and appreciation are foundational elements of a strong family. These qualities foster a supportive environment where family members feel valued and responsible for each other.

Family Commitment: Commitment within a family is a pledge or promise to uphold a sense of responsibility and duty that overrides temporary conflicts or crises. Members of strong families take their familial commitment seriously, consciously and unwaveringly. Despite facing the same problems as everyone else—hectic schedules, financial difficulties, demanding work hours, marital infidelity, and illness—strong families help each other during hard times. They prioritize family relationships, even if it means sacrificing personal desires, activities outside the family, or work demands. At the core of this sacrifice is the idea of putting others’ interests ahead of one’s own, reflecting moral values and integrity.

Tips for Strengthening Commitment:

  • Arrange a family council for an hour once a month to discuss family goals, progress, and areas needing improvement. Encourage free, open, and accepting communication.
  • If everyone in the family is too busy with outside activities, rearrange schedules to spend more time together or have each family member give up one outside activity.
  • Designate a “family wall” in the house, decorated with photos, souvenirs, and family mementos.
  • Create a family history record in a photo album, identifying dates, places, and special events.


Showing Appreciation: By showing appreciation, we affirm the worth and dignity of family members. This message is crucial for emotional wellness as it builds self-esteem, a core building block of healthy personalities. Parents and siblings significantly influence children’s self-perception, shaping them to see themselves positively or negatively. Strong families cherish their members, show that they are valued, and build self-esteem that can be passed down to future generations.

Tips for Showing Appreciation:

  • Set a goal of giving each family member at least one compliment per day.
  • Create a positive home environment by reframing negative statements into positive ones (e.g., “I appreciate your concern for my well-being” instead of “You are always trying to control me”).
  • Write down ten things you like about each family member and share the list with them.


Commitment and appreciation are key elements in building a strong family. By prioritizing these values, families can create a nurturing and supportive environment where all members feel valued and respected.

Dr.Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT