In the realm of relationship improvement, experts unanimously stress the importance of valuing, prioritizing, and consistently nurturing the bond between partners. This entails investing quality time, engaging in meaningful dates, and enhancing communication.

For couples encountering struggles within their relationship, there are proactive steps to take:

  1. Identify Areas of Discontent: Begin by acknowledging any complaints or dissatisfactions that either or both partners are experiencing. This simple act of communication can shift the dynamics of the relationship.
  2. Commit to Personal Growth: Are you prepared to initiate personal changes to enhance your relationship? Instead of fixating on changing your partner, focus on self-improvement. Taking responsibility for your actions and reactions is key.
  3. Hold Yourself Accountable: Mere commitment without a clear strategy and goals is insufficient. Accountability is essential for progress. Solicit feedback from your partner regarding the changes they observe in you. Marriage counselors or couple’s therapists can facilitate these discussions effectively.
  4. Regular Check-Ins and Feedback: Schedule periodic check-ins to assess progress. Both partners can share their perceived progresses in personal growth. Encourage constructive feedback from your partner, fostering a supportive environment.
  5. Seek Professional Guidance: In cases where negative patterns such as blame, criticism, or defensiveness persist, involving a marriage counselor or couple’s therapist from the start can assist and enhance the improvement process. Professional guidance can help in identifying detrimental patterns and equips couples with tools to foster positive change.

By proactively engaging with a professional, couples demonstrate their commitment and dedication to fostering lasting, meaningful changes within their relationship. With expert assistance, couples can identify and replace negative patterns with constructive ones, ensuring sustained progress and growth.


Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT