Excitement and Expectations
Entering a committed relationship often brings excitement and passion. Initially, we may
feel like we’ve found the solution to all our problems, believing we’ll never be alone
again. However, these high expectations can lead to disappointment when our partners
inevitably fall short.
Common Pitfalls
Relying on a partner for fulfillment can cause us to blame them for our dissatisfaction.
This mindset frequently leads to conflict, with many people seeking therapy to change
their partner, convinced that the partner is the problem.
The Evolution of Relationships
Over time, relationships often enter a stage where partners feel distanced. The initial
passion and intimacy may fade, and you might feel like you love your partner but are no
longer “in love” with them. Both partners may feel they’ve lost themselves in the
relationship, abandoning friendships, hobbies, and activities that once brought
excitement, leading to resentment.
Dr.Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT
Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT
Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than 20 years of experience helping couples strengthen their relationships. Based in San Diego and providing online therapy throughout California, she specializes in couples therapy, marriage counseling, premarital counseling, affair recovery, communication and conflict, emotional disconnection, and rebuilding trust. Her integrative approach draws on research-based relationship strategies, attachment-informed therapy, and a deep understanding of the emotional patterns that can leave couples feeling hurt, misunderstood, or disconnected.
