Why did s/he cheat on me? Many people ask themselves that question every year. Their self-esteem is destroyed and they ask themselves the larger question: Why? Is it me? Is it him/her? Is it that woman/man? What does s/he have that I don’t? Have we lost touch with one another and grown that far apart?
Betrayal is painful! The process of dealing with infidelity and healing and strengthening the relationship is both challenging and courageous. What drives people to be unfaithful and what can you do about it?
Not all affairs have the same meaning. Life transitions for example, can prompt an affair. Infidelity can also be a poor response to unspoken wants and needs that have affected a relationship. etc…
You can choose to seek the help of a couple’s therapist and get insight on what has prompted the affair. Whether you decide to stay married and rebuild the trust or not, you can learn to forgive and move forward with your life. You’ll enjoy better, healthier, happier relationships–with or without each other.
Dr. Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT