Are you continually in conflict with your spouse, your children, your boss and/or your colleagues? Do you believe that there’s a problem but it always seems to be the other person’s fault? Do you have challenges seeing your part in the problem? Are you resisting the possibility that you might have or you are contributing to the problem?
Resolving conflicts starts with
1- Letting go of the desire to be right
2- Accepting that you might and probably are contributing to the problem
3- Recognizing your part in the conflict
4- Listening to the other person with a genuine desire to understand her/him
5- Not taking things personally and not defending yourself
6- Verifying and clarifying any assumption you are making that might be increasing misunderstandings
7- Choosing to value the relationship and the person over your strong desire to be right
Dr.Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT
www.sandiegofamilytherapy.net
Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT
Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than 20 years of experience helping couples strengthen their relationships. Based in San Diego and providing online therapy throughout California, she specializes in couples therapy, marriage counseling, premarital counseling, affair recovery, communication and conflict, emotional disconnection, and rebuilding trust. Her integrative approach draws on research-based relationship strategies, attachment-informed therapy, and a deep understanding of the emotional patterns that can leave couples feeling hurt, misunderstood, or disconnected.
