We often confuse reconciliation with conflict resolution. In our anxiousness to fix conflicts, we sometimes push people, particularly children, to say they are sorry. But relationships and situation don’t get fixed or restored when we try to force it. We can always invite reconciliation but not demand it. An apology can make an issue go away for a while but it won’t heal a relationship.

Adapted from a book by Bill Thrall.

Dr.Baya Mebarek, Psy.D.,LMFT
www.sandiegofamilytherapy.net