– Show respect, and focus on the behavior not the child.
– Be firm, fair, and consistent. Discipline with love not with frustration.
– Do not use physical punishment. It teaches children that violence is acceptable.
– Fit the consequences to the behavior. For example if you child color the kitchen counter the consequences should be to clean it off.
– Take action as soon as possible so your child associate the poor choice/behavior with their consequences.
– If you are upset or angry, cool down before you use discipline.
– Give “times-outs.” This allow younger children to think about their actions.
– Keep in mind that no one is perfect, so have realistic expectations. We all make mistakes
– Choose what behaviors you will not let go and take a stand on and which you can be more flexible about.
– Validate often your child’s positive actions, behaviors, and qualities. This will encourage your child to continue the behavior you want.

Dr. Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT

San Diego Couples and Family Therapy serves the surrounding areas of Sorrento Valley Road as La Jolla, UTC San Diego, Del Mar, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Bernardo, Rancho Penasquitos, Poway, University City and Escondido.