Communication is so important that it can make or break a relationship. It is critical to the success of a relationship and instantly reflects your self-esteem, for better or for worse. Assertive communication commands respect, projects confidence, and inspires influence. It is respectful, direct, honest, open, non-threatening and non-defensive. It is not demanding, aggressive, or manipulative.

Communication is learned. With practice you can learn to communicate assertively, which will raise your self-assurance and improve your relationships. You communicate with more than your words. You relay information with your entire body. What you don’t say, or don’t want to say your body reveals. You communicate as well through the tone, the volume of your voice.

Effective communicators are honest, congruent, considerate, clear, and sensible. They take responsibility for their opinions, thoughts, feelings, and needs. They also realize that it is as much the responsibility of the sender as the listener to make sure the communication is effective.

Dr. Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT

San Diego Couples and Family Therapy serves the surrounding areas of Sorrento Valley Road as La Jolla, UTC San Diego, Del Mar, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Bernardo, Rancho Penasquitos, Poway, University City and Escondido.