Some Signs of Being Controlled

Here are some signs of being controlled in a relationship …

1- Feeling drained of energy if you need to spend much time in the presence of the controller.

2- Needing to find time alone or out of the house.

3- Fantasizing frequently about some future time when you are free, independent, and able to do your own thing.

4- Always being concerned about pleasing the other person.

5- Spending money on the other person that you would never think about spending on yourself.

6- Feeling that you can never truly be yourself in the presence of the other person.

7- Cautiously guarding against having the other person angry at you, and feeling that anger could erupt at any time without notice.

8- Being interrupted while speaking.

9- Having your feelings defined for you by the other person.

10- Having to give your full attention to the other person.

11- Feeling that you are often criticized for things that you are proud of.

12- Being cautious about having outside friends for fear that jealousy might erupt.

Baya Mebarek, Psy.D., LMFT

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